I know, it's been a while. I've been working, making new friends, watching movies and re-entering the dating world. Now I consider myself open minded. You know how when you see the interracial couple and there's the Black girl that gives them the stank look? Well, I'm the girl yelling at the girl with the stank look. I'd never dated a white guy but what business is it of ours who strangers date? Black women complain a lot about Black men dating White women. And I believe that some Black men can be close minded, but maybe some of them are onto something. Maybe we as Black women should try and be more open to possibilities when we're dating. Maybe we should just date men instead of limiting ourselves to Black men. They sure aren't limiting themselves to us.
Recently, I did something that I honestly never thought I would have. I...went on a date with a white guy. I have to admit that when our flirtation started it kind of caught me off guard. I've been known to admire white guys, I mean Mark Wahlberg is too sexy. But I never thought about dating a white guy. However, as my cousin likes to remind me, no matter the color, men are men.
When I told my best friends about him, they didn't seem surprised at all. One of them even said, "Out of all our friends, you would be the one to end up with a white guy." I'm not even sure what that means. Do I give off an "interracial dating" aura? I know my blog usually focuses on entertainment but I decided to get this out. So what about you? Do you stick to your own race or do you just date? Is interracial dating even a big deal anymore?
My pleasure to come across your blog and read it, keep posting.
ReplyDeleteI am one of those white girls that the black man is into. I used to be the same way though; not thinking I would ever date a black man even though I most certainly found them attractive. Then I met this guy and he completely overwhelmed me and I knew there was something there. In a heartbeat I was captivated by this man. And he still has my heart to this day. I get those looks though from others. It happens more often than it should. My friends and family for the most part accept it, but there are the few that make it difficult. Interracial dating is still scarce. A lot of people think that in order to keep your culture, you must stay in your race.
ReplyDeleteI just happen to come across your blog by accident and I love it. I like your post. I've dated wm in the past married one, divorced him and now I'm about to marry again and he's white. Personally it's none of my business who people date, marry or fall in love with. I'm too busy being happy and in love myself to worry about what others do. There's no certain look to women who date IR, we just do. Good luck with your impending relationship, it's hard enough to find someone who loves you in this world without attaching a bunch of dumb rules to it.
ReplyDeleteAs the previous comment stated, "A lot of people think that in order to keep your culture, you must stay in your race."
ReplyDeleteI happen to agree with that to an extent. The Black family, in particular, is diminishing so that's a reason why I'm inclined to date within my race.
I've dated other races before, but I am most comfortable with Black men. I hope to be able to raise a strong, African-American family one day. The bottom line is, do what makes YOU happy and find love the best way you know how. I'm gonna need you to post more often though.... I miss ya!
Hi there...came across ur blog while I was searching for inter racial couple. Have to admit it's interesting..very much to actually date someone out of my own race. I'm a Malay and I'm currently dating a black man. At first I thought it's not going to work but as we took steps slowly and understand each others' culture, the relationship becoming interesting everyday. With him, I could be as expressive and being around him make me feel smart. Comparing to Malay men who prefer their women to hold back the thoughts and be as polite and quite..hmmm..inequality I guess. Differences in what he and I have are the things that keep us experiencing each other more and more. :-)
ReplyDeleteThanks so much for commenting you guys! It didn't work out but it was a fun experience. I've realized that its not just our colors that make us different but its also our past experiences that make us who we are. And that matters so much more than color
ReplyDeleteInterracial dating is dating and happy hormone buzz. It's really up to the couple to be self confident enough to
ReplyDeletesee beyond and racial line and realize they're are in love if they really are.Interracial Dating is a great resource
for all races looking for new loves.
These days, it's so hard to find a match that I'd date a purple guy if he were the right one and we could have a healthy relationship together.
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